It seems like no matter what my relationship status, there is always at least one question I absolutely dread. When I was in a relationship it was: "When are you getting married?" Now as a single lady the question that makes me cringe is "So, are you dating anyone?"
I think my anxiety to the dating question is heavily linked to the answer (which is "no") but what can I expect, especially after I have created a blog to write about my dating adventures (which haven't actually happened yet)? Today is a turning point. Today marks the end of the lease of the town home I shared with my ex and the beginning of a new chapter. Even though I have been single for over five months the finality of it seems much more real now and I am so relieved and ready to move on. I'm not in any rush to start dating -- or at least seek people to date --but I am open to the opportunity. But, because I am a big believer in time lines, I have promised two of my closest friends that I will allow them to help me get back into the big kid pool. What does this entail? Well, I have agreed to allow them to help me write a new online profile to be posted on Oct. 10. The date is mostly arbitrary other than I am planning to run a 5K on that day. If I didn't think it would be fun to write about I probably wouldn't have agreed, but what could it hurt, right?
So, I guess until then I will have to to dodge the uncomfortable questions and puppy dog looks (as if being single is a punishment) and continue to write about my random observations of relationships and other people's dating lives.
What about you, what question do you absolutely cringe at when people ask it?
Ugh, the worst question is the follow-up to when you say you aren't getting married -- why not. I could go the rest of my life without being asked that again. Don't worry, we will make your profile awesome.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry, after you do get married, the question changes to "So, when are you 2 gonna have some babies?" You'd think they'd stop asking after 10 years...
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Megan - I truly enjoy reading your blog. Your posts are true representations of what it's like to be a woman in today's world. Single or not - we all get asked "dreaded questions," we all go through challenging life transitions and we're all trying to figure out how to survive through it all. It's not enough to survive though, is it? We feel compelled to succeed. To do better. To feel better. To ultimately BE better. I think the best way to move toward change is to reflect on our SELF and your blog does this with transparency and altruism. So, thanks for your openness to share and help the rest of us feel a little less crazy in this life.
ReplyDelete-Robyn :)